In all that we do as believers, grace must be present. Sometimes we're too quick to judgement on our brothers and sisters, when we're not really in touch with all the facts and intentions. Here's where grace should surface. In place of criticism, we need to consider prayer in the matter. Sometimes personal matters cloud our understanding as well.
Now before this sounds judgemental, let us reach into our souls and consider the beauty of Jesus in our brothers and sisters. Our relationship then should be marked by love.
John 13:35 (AMP)
35 By this shall all [men] know that you are My disciples, if you love one another [if you keep on showing love among yourselves].